Since tomorrow I will be spending the day with my own mother, I felt the need to blog this today.
When most people think of Mother’s Day, they imagine what they will buy for their mom (or wife), what they will cook her, or whether they will take her out to eat or shopping, etc. We think of ways to show our Moms that we love them, normally with materialistic objects, but nevertheless, the thought still counts. How often we forget those who don’t have children to celebrate with: those who have lost babies due to miscarriage or stillbirth, SIDS, disease and illness, or tragic events. Who will shower them with love and kind thoughts, gifts of gratitude for being a mother, no matter how long? Who will come beside them and give them flowers, hold their hand, prepare their meal? Possibly no one.
Mothers should definitely be appreciated and loved on for all they’ve endured to become a mother: whether through childbirth, adoption, IVF, foster care, loss. I do not ever want to imagine a world without mothers. However, it takes more than becoming pregnant and giving birth to truly be a mother. Putting your child’s needs before your own, letting go of any and all dignity while using the bathroom, giving up sleep….forever….., knowing your house will never be perfect or clean…again, and also granting yourself grace when you mess up. These are some things that make you a mother. Millions of women can give birth to a baby, but this doesn’t make them a mother. For those who choose to become pregnant and not take care of their child, to not put their needs first, to not put them first, just remember all the mothers who don’t have the opportunity you’ve been granted. They would lay down their life to have those children to love, raise, put first. Those are the real mothers. This day is for them, for you, for anyone who has ever taken a child and treated them as their own. It’s your day.
Have a blessed Mother’s Day! ❤